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Choosing A Method of Birth Control
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Except for abstinence from sexual intercourse, no single birth control method is 100 percent effective, 100 percent free of side effects, absolutely safe, or financially available to everyone. Avoiding an unintended pregnancy requires weighing the benefits and drawbacks of the various methods and choosing the one(s) that both partners find comfortable and will use correctly and consistently each time sexual intercourse takes place. Even a technologically perfect contraceptive will fail when not used correctly and consistently. There are many factors to consider in choosing a method of birth control:
- Family and personal health history
- Effectiveness
- Frequency of sex
- Cost
- Ability to keep contraceptive supplies on hand
- Strength of motivation to use a method
- The risk of transmitting an STI
Being An Effective Contraceptor
Being an effective contraceptor has two components. First, a method of birth control must be chosen that takes into account the nature of an individual's (or couple's) sexual activities, the frequency of intercourse, the individual's health history, and personal and religious values. Second, the method(s) chosen must be used consistently and correctly.
Contraception is most effective when the responsibility for birth control is shared. Couples can read and discuss information about the advantages and disadvantages of the different methods, and they can try various methods to find out which are best suited for them. They can share financial costs of their chosen method(s). They can share the responsibility for their chosen method. A man can learn how a diaphragm is used, a woman can learn about the condom, and they can incorporate this into their lovemaking.
Partners who share the responsibility for birth control are more likely to use their chosen method(s) properly, which makes birth control more effective. Reducing the fear of pregnancy makes sex more enjoyable. Another benefit of sharing the responsibility for birth control is that it tends to enhance intimacy in a relationship. Discussing birth control and the mutual decision-making involved leads to better communication.
Individuals should carry some method of birth control with them if they anticipate that sexual intercourse might occur. For example, both men and women can carry a condom with them on dates or to parties if they think that sexual activity is a possibility.
Discussing Birth Control
A couple shares the responsibility for birth control because both partners are responsible if an unintended pregnancy occurs. This fact alone is an important reason to discuss birth control. Although it is important to discuss birth control before having sex, many individuals are embarrassed or feel awkward doing so. Partners who are sexual intermittently or first time partners may not discuss birth control before sex because they fear spoiling a romantic mood. Talking about contraception implies that sex is going to take place, which may force an individual to face internal conflicts about engaging in sex. Many individuals subscribe to the myth that good sex can only be spontaneous if unplanned and so do not discuss sex and birth control. However, taking care of the details first can enhance spontaneity.
The best time to discuss birth control is before sexual intercourse begins. A partner can say something like, "I would really like to make love (have sex) with you, and I want to be sure we're protected." That kind of introduction can be followed by a statement of preference and personal responsibility, such as, "I prefer to use condoms" or "I'm on the pill" or, using a question, such as, "What birth control method do you prefer?" or "What are we going to do about birth control?"
Because many contraceptives are designed for use by the woman, many couples believe that birth control is not the male partner's responsibility. Even if the man is concerned about preventing an unintended pregnancy, he may not ask about birth control, fearing embarrassment or appearing ignorant. Many women, however, welcome a man initiating a discussion of birth control.
Discussions about birth control enhance communication about other sexual concerns, such as the role of sex in a relationship, likes and dislikes, and prevention of sexually transmitted infections.
Recommended Resources
- Interactive Quiz for Choosing a Birth Control Method (Association of Reproductive Health Professionals)
Take this quiz to find out what kind of birth control is best for you.
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last reviewed: Spring 2005